Why Feeling Alone is The Time for Self-Reflection and not another Relationship.

Why Feeling Alone is The Time for Self-Reflection and not another Relationship. why feeling alone is the time for self-reflection and not another relationship.
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Today I’d like to answer this question, “I always feel alone. I want to share my feelings with someone, but there is no one who can understand me. How can I get rid of it?”

Even when we’re surrounded by others, we still experience our feelings and emotions on our own. We’re the ones who feel joy, sadness, and everything in between. While there may be things happening around us, we’re the ones reacting to them. So when you feel alone and wish someone understood you, it’s not necessarily about them understanding. It’s more about you understanding what it means to be alone.

It’s like you’re still figuring yourself out. Those feelings you’re experiencing, you can’t just make them disappear. Instead, you need to embrace and feel them. Being alone isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it’s actually a chance for self-reflection and introspection. Take that time to understand why being alone scares you or why are you afraid of being alone.

That’s when you really start growing. Instead of seeking understanding from others, it’s about understanding your own feelings when you’re by yourself. If being alone brings up painful emotions like worthlessness or helplessness, it’s a sign that there’s some inner work to be done. You need to go deeper and address these issues within yourself before trying to find solace in someone else.


Feeling alone and experiencing negative emotions can actually be a beneficial place for personal growth. It’s not about trying to eliminate those feelings; instead, it’s about acknowledging them and viewing solitude as a chance to develop self-reliance and emotional maturity. While some might seek refuge in new relationships to avoid being alone, that’s just avoiding the underlying issue. It’s easy to be tempted to escape those feelings or seek someone else’s understanding, but the real insight comes from observing and confronting the fears and insecurities that surface when you’re alone.

It’s more like masking the negative emotions with a bandage, when your authentic self is urging you to address them. The more you seek external validation or distractions, the more you evade these feelings that simply need acknowledgment, processing, and release. Once you confront and release them, you’ll discover that being alone is actually quite beautiful place where you belong.

Even when slight fears emerge, view them as chances for personal growth. Use these moments to address your weaknesses and leverage your strengths. Without confronting these fears and feelings when alone, it becomes difficult to form genuine connections with others, as those connections would stem from fear rather than authenticity. However, once you confront your fears and connect with yourself, you’ll find it easier to connect with those around you.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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