Is It Possible to Break a Narcissist Mentally?

Is It Possible to Break a Narcissist Mentally? is it possible to break a narcissist mentally?
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Today I’ll be answering this question, “Is it possible to break a narcissist mentally?”

This is a very common question, especially when you’re feeling bitter and angry after leaving a narcissistic relationship. Of course, feeling angry and resentful toward them is very common. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. You’re angry because they hurt you, crossed your boundaries, betrayed you, lied to you, and did all those painful things to you. So it’s perfectly okay to feel angry.

But what’s not okay is what you do with this anger. That’s why someone might ask about breaking them mentally, which means focusing on them or seeking revenge. While it’s normal to want revenge, doing so means you’re forgetting about yourself and not acting from your true self. You’re not thinking rationally or logically; you’re acting as someone still bitter and hurt by the past.

It’s like making a major life decision while under the influence of your pain, and you may end up doing something you’ll later regret. I’ve seen people say they ended up doing things like breaking the narcissist’s car or destroying their belongings. Then, they found themselves in jail or lost custody of their kids.

That’s simply because they acted with tainted emotions. Yes, you are bitter and you’ve been hurt, but if you really want to hurt yourself more, act out with this bitterness and anger. You’ll end up doing something you’ll later regret. Some things you might do could be irreversible. Calling someone a name is reversible, but some actions can lead to deep regret, sinking you further into a pit of darkness and bitterness.

So, breaking a narcissist mentally is not something you should be aiming for. Instead, you should focus on dealing with the fact that you’ve been mentally broken. Wanting to break the narcissist’s mentally means they’ve already broken you mentally, and now you’re chasing revenge fantasies. You cannot truly get even with someone who lacks moral conscience, empathy, or genuine feelings.

You can’t get even with them; you’ll just be battling endlessly and it’s a game which you’re already losing as you’re already losing yourself. The only way to truly move on is to focus on yourself. Set boundaries, work on your personal growth, and regain your self-confidence because that’s what’s been broken. You may not believe in yourself or trust yourself right now, and you might feel bitter and hopeless. You might even doubt that you’ll ever be in a healthy relationship again.

If you focus on what you’ve lost, you’ll stay stuck. Instead, remember that there is a life waiting for you once you overcome this. You can learn that some people don’t care if they hurt you and move forward so easily. It’s up to you to look inside and understand yourself. Being in a narcissistic relationship can break you mentally, but you can heal by focusing on yourself and your future.

If you keep trying to break the narcissist mentally or seek revenge, you’re not freeing yourself from the pain. You’re just staying stuck in it. It’s like having a wound and, instead of treating it, you keep focusing on who caused it. This means the wound stays open, and the person who caused it can hurt you again. Narcissists are manipulative and don’t really care, so trying to break them will only hurt you more.

Instead, focus on yourself and let go of revenge fantasies. By focusing on your healing, you regain your strength. In the end, it’s you who needs to heal, and by focusing on yourself, you start to take back control of your life.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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