6 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact

6 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact 6 things narcissists do when you go no contact
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When you go no contact with your narcissistic ex, you can expect one or more acts of retaliation from them. It’s very rare for a narcissist to just leave you alone as you seek to move forward with your life. No Contact is one of those crucial steps but establishing no contact with a very manipulative person is not a walk in the park especially when you’re not going inwards and healing.

When you’re physically observing no contact without taking any extra steps deep within yourself, they will press those buttons that make you susceptible to breaking your no contact.

To a narc, the relationship is all about themselves and supplying their needs and the more you understand their behaviors and patterns when you go no contact, the more you can at least be better prepared to mitigate and navigate through the process of no contact and successfully move forward with your life. Another thing is not all narcissists will do the same thing when you go no contact, it depends on the situation but as always you still hold the key to keeping them away from your life for good. In this article, I am going to share with you some of the things a narc might do when you go no contact.

1. Try to Contact you Through Different Channels

The first thing a narcissist might do when you go no contact is they may try to contact you through different channels. You may have blocked them in all social media platforms or even deleted their phone number but they will still try to contact you. They may contact you through new social media accounts or via email just to pass a message across. They may also use other people to pass a message across to you. This can be enablers, your family, friends or even your kids. They will just look for a channel of communication so as to get to you.

2. Spread Rumors or Lies About You

The narc may also launch a smear campaign against you to those close to you. They may spread lies to your friends, family or colleagues just so as to tempt you to react to the false allegations. The most common ones are lies about you sleeping around or about you being at fault for what happened in the relationship or even to the gross end of you having an STD.

There’s no limit on the kinds of things they can do to tarnish your name but it’s not the best place to be because some of those people close to you will probably believe them. This may tempt you to call them and apologize or to want to seek answers for those false allegations or to even clear your name which breaks your no contact.

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3. ‘Faked’ Changed Behavior

The narc may also appear to take full responsibility of some of the undesirable things you didn’t want about the relationship just to try to show you that they’re changing their behaviors. The most commons one may be you overhearing that they’ve started going to church or therapy from one of your mutual acquaintances.

While it’s really good to do those things and change our behaviors, they are also good alibis that draw your attention to them. This aspect of changed behavior may also be accompanied by a false apology. They may send this false apology through your family or friends who will even back them up and show you clear evidence that they’re changing their behaviors. This will still tempt you to break no contact especially when you’re not doing some inner work.

4. Play with Your Sympathy or Guilt Trip You

The narcissist may also manipulate your sympathy by playing the victim and guilt-tripping you. They may fabricate stories of hardships, such as job loss or serious illness, to evoke empathy and maintain control. The goal is to make you feel pity, as this signifies an opportunity for them to get in touch with you and regain control. This will work so well especially when you don’t understand your boundaries on a deeper level. They may also explain that they’re going through those things because of your actions and they might even have clear ‘evidence’ to support those claims.

5. Stalking

This a common one especially being done by narcissists of a higher spectrum, they may cyberstalk you or even physically stalk you. They may obsess over your life and just try to monitor every move because they really feel abandoned which triggers their deepest insecurities.

This is a challenging one but what you can do is seek a restraining order where necessary, surround yourself with supportive people, and always be mindful of your safety wherever you are. Where possible, relocating to a new city may help you to at least start over faraway from them. It’s more of just making it hard for them to stalk you especially when law enforcement does not actually understand or take your sentiments seriously.

6. Move on and Replace You with New supply

The narcissist may also choose to just move on and replace you with new supply who they’ve been grooming while you were in a relationship together. This may make you feel worthless and jealous as you think that the new supply will be treated way better than you were.

On the flip side, this can be the best scenario for you because while they’ll be busy grooming their new supply, you should also be busy working on yourself and finding healing. It can be hard to watch the narcissist move on and seemingly have a newfound happiness with someone else and it can even make you want to ‘keep tabs’ on them or call the narcissist because you want answers.

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However, it’s important to understand that the cycle of abuse will likely repeat and the new partner will soon suffer the same fate. That’s why, it’s best to focus on your own recovery and not engage in comparisons or attempts to contact the new partner.

Conclusion

A narcissist may do a number of things as they try to get your attention or just to lure you back into the relationship and if you’re not really working on yourself, you’ll still feel like they’re controlling your life. The best way to protect yourself is to use your “no contact” as an opportunity to really go inwards and release all those unhealed parts deep within you that are making you susceptible.

There has to be a deep shift within you so that you can also go no contact from deep within you. This deep shift is you dissolving those negative beliefs you have about relationships and why you settle for less or why you feel unworthy of your own love or why feel unworthy of sticking to your own personal boundaries.

Healing is about you stepping up and connecting with your true self. The more you’re connected, the more it becomes easy to deal with a manipulative person. You get to understand that they’re people out there who can do various things to just get their way and the only thing you can do is for you to just be so deeply clear on things you cannot tolerate in life. Use your no contact to really go all the way in there.


Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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