Why You Think Therapy Will Not Work for You after an Abusive Relationship

Why You Think Therapy Will Not Work for You after an Abusive Relationship why you think therapy will not work for you after an abusive relationship
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Today, I’ll be addressing the question of why you sometimes think therapy doesn’t work or won’t work specifically for you. You might be thinking, “My problems are too big. I’ve been dealing with these issues for a long time, and therapy won’t work for me. I’ve even tried therapy before, and it didn’t work.” It’s completely understandable to feel this way, but let’s explore this further.

Firstly, it can appear as a logical conclusion based on your past experiences with therapy. If you’ve had a negative experience or felt that therapy didn’t bring about the desired changes, it’s natural to question its effectiveness. However, it’s important to recognize that this is a form of generalization. Just because one therapy or one therapist didn’t work for you doesn’t mean that all therapies and therapists are ineffective. It’s a trick of the mind trying to keep you trapped in your current state.


If one mechanic fails to fix your car, you don’t simply give up and stop looking for another one. Instead, you recognize that not all mechanics have the same skills or approaches, and you continue your search until you find one who can successfully repair your vehicle.

Similarly, in therapy, if one therapist or therapy approach doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t mean that therapy as a whole is ineffective. Just like finding the right mechanic is essential for fixing your car, finding the right therapist is crucial for addressing your mental and emotional well-being. It’s about persevering and exploring different options until you find the right fit that can help you on your journey towards healing and personal growth.

Mind Resists Change

The mind resists change and seeks comfort in familiarity. If one or two therapies didn’t yield the desired results, the mind tends to focus on those instances rather than considering the multitude of other therapeutic options available. It wants to keep you in the familiar pain or comfort zone, even if it contradicts what your authentic self truly desires. Therefore, it’s crucial to challenge these beliefs and understand that your negative skepticism is driven by the fear of change, not by rational judgment.


Your Form of Therapy — Might have Dealt with Symptoms Only

It’s essential to evaluate the therapy you’ve tried in the past. Perhaps it didn’t address the deeper layers of your subconscious mind, where the root causes of your issues reside. Working with the subconscious mind is crucial for lasting change. If you haven’t delved into those deeper levels, it doesn’t mean that therapy as a whole is ineffective. It simply means that you need to explore different approaches or find therapists who specialize in working with the subconscious.


By addressing those negative beliefs about yourself and working on the subconscious level, you can break free from the patterns and symptoms that have kept you stuck. Remember, the mind may try to deceive you into believing therapy doesn’t work because it prefers the familiarity of your current pain. However, once you embark on the journey of healing those deep-seated traumas and negative experiences, you’ll realize that therapy does work.

So, challenge those negative beliefs, seek therapy that delves into the subconscious, and recognize that your mind may be trying to keep you trapped. Therapy can be a powerful tool for personal growth and healing. Don’t let past experiences limit your potential. Keep an open mind, explore different options, and trust that you can find a therapeutic approach that resonates with you.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these subconscious patterns for good (in less than 2 months) using Mind Shifting, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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