Healing from Abuse: The Truth Will Painfully Set You Free

Healing from Abuse: The Truth Will Painfully Set You Free healing

You’ve probably heard that Bible verse, “The truth will set you free.” Well, they weren’t really kidding about it, but I think they forgot about an important detail — the truth is going to be so uncomfortable before it sets you free. If there’s something we love avoiding and what our minds carefully avoid is the truth, seeing the reality of the situation is your ego’s worst nightmare.

Your mind will craft all sorts of excuses just to avoid facing the truth; your anxiety will kick in to defence mode, and you may run away a million miles just to avoid it. We can run around in cycles and even jump from one relationship to another, but you know what? Healing begins with facing that rather uncomfortable truth.

Nudging Yourself to Face Reality

That’s why the first step in your healing journey is acknowledging the truth of the abuse that is happening or the hurt you’re going through. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people, even myself, trying to brush off abuse like it’s no big deal. “Oh, it wasn’t that bad,” or “Maybe I’m just overreacting.” Sound familiar?

I do understand that denying or downplaying abuse is your mind’s way of protecting you. It’s like, “Nope, can’t deal with this right now, let’s pretend it didn’t happen.” But here’s the thing — that’s the script you’ve probably been listening to for a very long time to avoid facing the truth of what’s really happening. By listening to that script, you end up stuck in that treacherous relationship.

That’s why you’ve got to lean on and nudge yourself to face the truth. Every bone in your body is going to scream and try to distract you from that truth, but you just have to do it. It’s like ripping off a dirty and convenient band-aid — it will be painful for a moment, but then you can see clearly and start your healing journey.

The Painful Liberation

Now, once you peel off that bandage, you’re able to see the extent of the damage, and that in itself is liberating. You’re seeing the truth that the bandage is just preventing the wound from fully healing. When you face the truth, you’re also opening yourself up to possible solutions that help you deal with the messy wounds or situations you’re in.

For example, you may realize that the wound may not heal by itself and may need specialized care, such as going to therapy. That’s you facing the truth that you may not know how to handle those wounds or those uncomfortable sensations. That’s how nudging yourself to face reality leads you to seek solutions that help you confront the uncomfortable aspects of truth.

It also doesn’t mean you have to face it alone. If you can, that’s great, but when you’re feeling very stuck, facing the truth may mean acknowledging that you don’t know what to do and seeking help or finding a safe space to process the uncomfortable sensations that arise.

Simply put, the truth will set you free by allowing you to process the pain and discomfort that arise when you face it. So, the gap between your false identity and your authenticity is the pain you’ve accumulated. By releasing that pain or seeing through it, you’re lifting a weight off your shoulders and connecting to the authentic you.

Challenging and Provoking Change

So, here’s my challenge to you — what truths are you avoiding? Are you still making excuses for someone’s shitty behaviour? Are you telling yourself, “They’ll change,” when deep down you know they won’t? Do

Let’s be real here. Avoiding these truths might seem like it’s making things better for you, but in the long run, it prolongs your suffering. One avoided truth equals more pain. That’s where regret comes in — not acknowledging the red flags (truths) early on or jumping into the relationship blindfolded (avoiding them).

We often find ourselves here by consciously and unconsciously avoiding the truth, but we also move away from this place by consciously facing the truth.

So, ask yourself:

· What truths am I afraid to face about my relationship or my addiction?

· How is avoiding these truths holding me back?

· What could change if I fully accepted the reality of my situation?

· What sensations arise when I want to face the truth?

· What can you really control in your situation?

· Can you really do it by yourself?


Healing may not be a walk in the park — it can feel like climbing a mountain in the rain. That’s why sometimes, it’s better to climb it with an experienced mountaineer or seek help in a safe environment to process those emotions. That’s also an uncomfortable truth we may be afraid of facing. But by channelling all your energy and resources into facing that truth, you will reach the other side where liberation awaits. You can never truly be free by avoiding it; you might think you are, but deep inside, you know it’s you’re aching.

It’s going to be uncomfortable at times, but facing it allows you to shed weight and grow lighter. You’ve got this. It won’t be easy, but you’ve already survived the hardest part. Now, it’s time to thrive and come back to the real you. You deserve nothing less than a life filled with love, respect, and peace. Here to cheer you on.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii
Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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