East or West, however compassionate you are, people will exploit it — even when you’re not a people pleaser. You may just be living your life well and exuding goodness, and maybe you don’t even have an idea about your boundaries. You may go out and about to help the needy or simply to be a good person in general, but without knowledge of your physical and emotional limits, you will end up exploiting yourself — and others will take advantage of you.

However, with clearly defined boundaries, you will still show compassion — but without drying up your well. It can be emotionally easier to express compassion to others than to yourself. This is because, for you, it feels easier to compromise without pushback. You can let that one disrespect slide, then the second one too, as you still view it as a sign of being compassionate.

When you’re compassionate, you tend to understand where the other person is coming from, and you’ll often let their words pass through you like the wind.

When You don’t Stop Them — They Won’t’ Stop

The challenge with that, however, is that some people will keep pushing and pushing you to the point where they end up emotionally or physically hurting you. Some people don’t have limits or a deep realization of how their habits or actions may affect others.

So, your acts of kindness will meet a rough end when strong boundaries are not in place. Actually, that’s why in most neighbourhoods, you cannot leave your door open — because if you do, someone may just stray in and take all your stuff.

The same applies to boundaries — you cannot just go through life without truly understanding them. They are your reminders that someone is about to cross your line, and if you let them in, you will get hurt or they will start taking advantage of you.

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We’re social beings who live in a society that includes every kind of personality — that’s why the police are there to keep you safe from physical threats. In the same way, your boundaries protect you from outside elements who may consciously or unconsciously deplete you or exploit you for their own benefit.

We may disregard boundaries because we think they limit our compassion or our freedom, but that’s not really true. With boundaries, your compassion will flow for much longer — but now it has a tap to close when you feel you’re about to run dry.

That’s the power of healthy boundaries: they allow you to safeguard your inner oasis from drying up, so it can last longer and keep oozing goodness without running out.

So, your compassion needs boundaries so that you will not be exploited. You need that assertive or inner masculine side to kick in and fight back when your territory is invaded. You cannot just sit down and let people do what they want in the name of compassion — you must stand up and protect what you can, to the best of your ability, through well-defined and healthy boundaries.

This also means that you can be compassionate and still block them — or rather, lock them out — when you see that they’re threatening your peace of mind or your physical self.

In conclusion, boundaries aren’t just for people pleasers, as they’re often misunderstood. You need to deeply understand your own boundaries so you can live more freely and compassionately in a world filled with people who have different values, intentions, and agendas. Without them, you’ll either end up hurting yourself — or the system will hurt you.

You can call yourself spiritual all you want, but we live in a physical reality — and in this reality, boundaries are what safeguard your wellbeing.

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