Why You no Longer Feel Worthy of Love After Betrayal?

Why You no Longer Feel Worthy of Love After Betrayal? why you no longer feel worthy of love after betrayal?
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In the aftermath of betrayal, the feeling of unworthiness can be overwhelming. Whether it’s a deceitful partner, an abusive ex, or someone you deeply trusted, the aftermath of betrayal can leave you questioning your own value or questioning if you’re worthy of love. But what exactly leads us to believe we’re not worthy of love after such experiences?

Betrayal cuts deep because it challenges our core beliefs about ourselves and our relationships. When someone we held in high regard fails us, it’s easy to internalize their actions as a reflection of our own shortcomings. This internalization creates a distorted inner belief system, where we start to see ourselves as unworthy of love.

The mind plays a pivotal role in perpetuating this belief. It takes our past experiences of betrayal and molds them into our self-perception. Even when surrounded by love and support from others, if we believe we’re not worthy of love, it’s never enough. Let’s say you’ve been through a tough breakup and find yourself surrounded by love and support from friends, family, and maybe even a new romantic interest who genuinely cares for you. They offer words of encouragement, gestures of affection, and a shoulder to lean on whenever you need it.

However, deep down, you still carry the weight of past betrayals and harbor feelings of unworthiness. Despite the love and support pouring in from all directions, you struggle to truly believe that you deserve it. You might find yourself deflecting compliments, doubting the sincerity of others, and feeling like you’re somehow unworthy of genuine affection. You may ultimately sabotage the support you receive because your mind is accustomed to the familiar belief of unworthiness.

This negative belief becomes a filter through which you view the world. We subconsciously seek out instances that confirm our belief, thus perpetuating a cycle of self-doubt and attracting harmful relationships. It’s not just about finding someone to help us cope with these feelings; it’s about addressing and rewiring the negative belief itself.


Healing begins when we challenge this distorted belief and recognize that betrayal is not a reflection of our worth. People change, relationships evolve, and not everyone will meet our expectations. Understanding this allows us to set healthy boundaries and walk away from toxic situations, even in the face of abuse.

When our inner belief system is clear and aligned with our worth, we naturally gravitate towards healthier relationships and situations. This journey of healing involves doing the unconscious work of examining and reshaping our beliefs about ourselves and love.

Remember, healing after betrayal is not just about finding closure with others; it’s about finding peace within ourselves and reclaiming our sense of worthiness. By understanding and reshaping our inner belief system, we pave the way for genuine healing and healthy relationships in the future.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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