Why You Don’t Enjoy Your Hobbies Anymore After Leaving an Abusive Relationship

Why You Don’t Enjoy Your Hobbies Anymore After Leaving an Abusive Relationship why you don’t enjoy your hobbies anymore after leaving an abusive relationship
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Today, I’ll be addressing the question of whether doing the things you used to enjoy before an abusive relationship is a perfect way to connect with reality after leaving such a situation. When I refer to the things you used to enjoy, I’m talking about your hobbies — activities that may have been dropped during the abusive relationship. In such relationships, people often abandon their interests, distance themselves from friends, and isolate from activities that once brought them joy. Abusive relationships tend to strip away the things that make you happy because the abuser wants control over your life.

This loss of personal identity and disconnection from one’s desires can leave you feeling adrift, unsure of who you are, and lacking a sense of direction. In the relationship, you may have given up on personal goals or dreams due to lack of support or ridicule from the abusive partner. Consequently, after leaving such a relationship, reconnecting with reality involves reclaiming your identity and rediscovering your inner feeling of joy.

Once of the common advice suggests going back to your hobbies, picking up old interests, or restarting the businesses you wanted to pursue as a way to help you move on and reconnect bac to reality or to forget about your ex. While this advice makes sense logically, it may not be enough on a deeper emotional level. Abusive relationships don’t just take away the physical aspects of your interests; they also rob you of the joy associated with those activities. The joy inside you becomes clouded with pain, negativity, and suppressed emotions.

Simply returning to your previous hobbies may not be enjoyable anymore because the joy within you has been suppressed. The relationship suppressed not only negative emotions but positive ones as well. Therefore, when you revisit old interests without addressing the deeper emotional wounds, you may find them unfulfilling or senseless.

Before diving back into your old hobbies, it’s crucial to go deeper and allow yourself to process and release the emotions you’ve been suppressing. During the relationship, you likely numbed your emotions to cope, but now, it’s essential to let those emotions surface. Give yourself the space to feel and express sadness, joy, or any emotion without judgment. Understand that it’s okay to experience a range of emotions and that you deserve happiness and fulfillment.

Releasing these emotions is the first step before you can truly enjoy the things you used to love. By processing your emotions, you’ll discover a newfound freedom to pursue those activities authentically. Moreover, you might even find new interests or passions that resonate with your genuine self.

In conclusion, reconnecting with reality after an abusive relationship involves more than just going back to your old hobbies. It’s about releasing the emotional baggage, allowing yourself to feel, and understanding that you deserve happiness. Only then can you authentically enjoy the things you used to love and potentially discover new sources of joy.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii
Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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