Why Toxic People Struggle to Recognize Their Own Toxicity?

Why Toxic People Struggle to Recognize Their Own Toxicity? why toxic people struggle to recognize their own toxicity?
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One of the hardest things in life is to take the time to reflect on our behaviors and our overall life. We may feel too busy or prioritize other things, avoiding the need to go deep within ourselves.

Having the innocence and willingness to delve deeper and take responsibility for our current life circumstances is not an easy task, especially when our identity resists it. Our current reality often strives for self-preservation, and we may become complacent, thinking that our life is okay without the need for introspection. We get lost in this illusionary worldview, making change and introspection challenging.


Now, if this is true for those who are ‘not that toxic,’ imagine someone deeply entrenched in their own worldview, unable to see beyond it, stuck in the darkest pit where no light can reach.

Toxic people often struggle to introspect because they dwell in a dark pit of their own making. This darkness stems not only from their negative behavior but also from unresolved traumas, emotional baggage, and distorted beliefs about themselves and others. Introspection requires the courage to confront one’s flaws, past mistakes, and shortcomings, which can be incredibly challenging and uncomfortable.

Toxic individuals may feel shame, guilt, and vulnerability when facing their inner demons, leading them to bury these emotions and project their unresolved issues onto others, perpetuating toxicity in their relationships.

Truly looking in the mirror and honestly evaluating oneself requires vulnerability and the willingness to confront the possibility that they might not be the person they want to believe they are. For some, this realization is unsettling and hard to accept. The darkness within them acts as a barrier to self-awareness and growth, making it difficult for them to recognize the impact of their actions and change their harmful behaviors.

Breaking free from this dark pit requires confronting their demons and embarking on a journey of self-discovery and healing. However, toxic individuals may find it easier to stay in denial and continue their harmful behaviors, using ignorance as a shield against self-reflection and justifying their actions to maintain a distorted self-image.

Empathy may also be lacking, preventing them from understanding how their behavior affects others. In essence, fear, ignorance, and self-centeredness contribute to their inability to realize their toxicity and change.

Overcoming this barrier necessitates confronting uncomfortable truths and committing to self-improvement, a challenging feat for those deeply entrenched in toxic patterns of behavior.

Focus on You

If you find yourself dealing with toxic people or navigating through difficult relationships, it’s natural to wonder why they behave the way they do or why they can’t change. However, placing too much focus on their behavior might distract you from the most crucial aspect of the situation — your own growth and healing. By shifting your focus inward and examining your own actions, emotions, and beliefs, you gain more control over your life and emotional well-being.

Taking the time to introspect allows you to identify patterns of behavior that might be contributing to your experiences with toxic individuals. It enables you to recognize any limiting beliefs, unresolved traumas, or negative thought patterns that may be influencing your responses and choices in relationships. Understanding your own triggers and vulnerabilities can help you develop healthier boundaries and responses to toxic behavior.


Remember that self-awareness is a powerful tool for personal growth. Acknowledging your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement empowers you to take charge of your life and create positive changes. By focusing on yourself and your healing journey, you can build resilience and develop the strength to handle challenging relationships with greater clarity and confidence.

Moreover, working on your own healing is not about blaming yourself for being in toxic situations; it’s about taking responsibility for your own well-being and personal growth. It’s recognizing that you have the power to make choices that align with your values and emotional needs. Prioritizing your healing journey can lead to more fulfilling relationships and a greater sense of self-worth.

In summary, while it’s essential to be aware of toxic behavior and its impact, it’s equally crucial to focus on your own growth and healing. Shifting your focus inward allows you to break free from patterns of victimhood and take control of your life. Embracing self-awareness and personal development empowers you to build healthier relationships, set stronger boundaries, and cultivate a more positive and fulfilling life.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these subconscious patterns for good (in less than 2 months) using Mind Shifting, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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