Why Narcissists Discard You at The Worst Possible Time?

Why Narcissists Discard You at The Worst Possible Time? why narcissists discard you at the worst possible time?
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Life’s challenges often test the strength of our relationships, and during our most vulnerable moments, we naturally seek comfort and support from our loved ones. However, if you find yourself entangled with a narcissistic partner, these times of need can become the breaking point in the relationship.

The puzzling behavior of narcissists often leads them to discard their partners at the worst possible time, leaving you bewildered and emotionally shattered. One such instance could be during an illness, where your need for care and empathy is paramount, or when you’ve been fired and need to depend on them financially, or when you’ve become disabled. In this article, we will explore the reasons behind why narcissists choose to abandon their partners at their most vulnerable moments.

1. The Quest for Admiration and Validation

Narcissists have an insatiable need for admiration and validation. They thrive on being seen as superior, perfect, and strong. When you are at your lowest point in life e.g. disabled, you may be unable to provide the narcissist with the constant admiration they crave. Your vulnerability and emotional struggles may threaten their carefully curated image of invincibility. As a result, they may feel that you no longer serve their ego-boosting needs, leading them to seek validation elsewhere or abandon the relationship altogether.

2. Fear of Emotional Burden

Narcissists have a limited capacity for empathy and genuine emotional connection. They fear being burdened with the emotional needs of others, especially when it requires compassion and support. They are unable to understand or genuinely care about your feelings and struggles.

During your lowest moments, you may require more emotional support and understanding than they are willing or capable of providing. Rather than confronting their own emotional limitations, narcissists may choose to leave to avoid dealing with your vulnerabilities, which they perceive as a threat to their emotional detachment.

3. Maintaining their Reputation

One other reason why a narcissist may choose to abandon their partners at their most vulnerable moments is to maintain their reputation. Narcissists are often deeply concerned about how they are perceived by others and strive to maintain an image of perfection and invincibility. When their partners are going through difficult times, it may tarnish the narcissist’s carefully crafted image, making them appear less capable or compassionate.

To protect their reputation and avoid being seen as weak or unsupportive, the narcissist may choose to distance themselves from their partner during their moments of vulnerability. They would rather be seen as independent and unburdened by emotional responsibilities, even if it means abandoning someone who needs their care and support the most.

4. Maintain Sense of Control

Maintaining a sense of control is a central motivation behind narcissists choosing to abandon their partners during vulnerable moments. These individuals thrive on dominance and power, using it to fuel their ego and uphold their sense of superiority. When their partners display increased emotional needs, challenging their control, narcissists may feel threatened.


To reestablish dominance, they may opt to distance themselves or end the relationship altogether, leaving their partners feeling abandoned and emotionally isolated. By abandoning their partners at their lowest points, narcissists reinforce their perceived superiority and evade any responsibility or emotional burden, ensuring their control remains intact.


Being abandoned at your most vulnerable moment is an incredibly painful experience, especially when dealing with a self-centered individual lacking genuine empathy. The emotional turmoil and sense of betrayal can be overwhelming. It is essential to acknowledge that the actions of such individuals reflect their own character and emotional limitations, not a reflection of your worth as a person.

If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, it is essential to take heart and realize that you deserve better. Embrace your strength and resilience, knowing that you have the power to break free from toxic relationships and reclaim your emotional well-being. Seek support from empathetic individuals who genuinely care for you and offer the understanding and compassion you deserve.


Remember, you are worthy of love, respect, and genuine connections. Allow yourself to heal, grow, and thrive, free from the manipulative games of a narcissist. By valuing yourself and prioritizing your emotional health, you can create a future filled with authentic, supportive relationships, where you are cherished for who you truly are.

Note from the Author

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I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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