Toxic Relationships: How to Move on Without Closure

Toxic Relationships: How to Move on Without Closure toxic relationships: how to move on without closure
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After a toxic relationship ends, you will most likely crave closure from your ex. You want them to show some sort of remorse and provide a sense of resolution for the psychological hell you endured, or even to pat you on the back and tell you the relationship is over or why it ended. You just want that final talk so that you can forge a way forward in life, just like in normal relationships.

However, with most narcissistic or emotionally abusive partners, the closure you may really want rarely comes. They may not offer you that closure talk for several reasons, like lack of accountability, protecting their reputation, keeping you as their backup supply, or for some other reason that suits their agenda. When you try seeking it, you’re more likely to be met with dismissiveness, cruelty, or further mind games, rather than any truthful validation. While some may give you some sort of closure, it will still be filled with vague explanations which won’t really quest your thirst for answers*et9czc*_ga*MTkxNjcxMDU2NC4xNjg1MDA1MjYw*_ga_6LJN6D94N6*MTY5ODczNDU3OC4yMjQuMC4xNjk4NzM0NTc4LjAuMC4w

As painful as it may sound, the only closure is lowering your expectations of them and saving yourself from more pain. Wishing that they’ll suddenly remember the good times you shared and give you one final parting gift will only lead to disappointment or further harm. You might be wondering, how do you move on without that final talk?

Your Closure Began When You Acknowledge their abuse.

The moment you find out or become aware that someone has been treating you harshly or abusing you, that’s when your closure journey begins. It’s the realization that normal relationship rules do not apply, and you have to do what it takes to keep yourself safe. The moment you knew it was just a façade is the same moment you realize you cannot logically reason with them. Your mind may keep you fixated on closure fantasies or chasing that closure, and by doing so, you will be playing into their hands or the tricks your mind is feeding you to keep you stuck in the familiar. Your mind, beliefs, and identity will do whatever it takes to keep you stuck as a way to avoid the inner turmoil that needs healing and processing.

The thought of closure, or even achieving closure itself, may offer temporary relief, but it won’t heal deeper injuries or wounds. True transformation happens when you acknowledge the pain the relationship has caused and work through it. That’s the closure within you, and that’s how you move on. It’s not just about physically moving on or jumping into another relationship; it’s about recognizing the painful impact of past relationships and processing them so they won’t lead you into the same unhealthy patterns or relationships again.

So, you can move on without their closure because moving on is about you, not them, and getting their closure doesn’t mean you’ve moved on. True moving on happens when you look inward and release the emotional baggage from your past experiences. The choice is yours whether to pursue a closure talk or to find closure within yourself, where you’re in full control.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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