Toxic Relationships: Are you Just Unlucky that you Keep Attracting Unhealthy Relationships?

Toxic Relationships: Are you Just Unlucky that you Keep Attracting Unhealthy Relationships? toxic relationships: are you just unlucky that you keep attracting unhealthy relationships?
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Today, I’ll be addressing the question: Does luck play a role in finding a healthy relationship or avoiding toxic ones? This is interesting because I’ve heard people attribute leaving a relationship to luck. Now, let’s think logically about luck; it’s about finding yourself in circumstances beyond your control.

Imagine being in a small town filled with abusive people, and you’re the only healthy one. Due to biological needs for a partner or companion, you might end up with a manipulative person because you feel you have no other option or haven’t seen anything different. Similarly, if you grew up in a household where abuse was the norm, you will unknowingly seek similar relationships, as that’s what you perceive as love. Luck can indeed play a role; for instance, someone traumatized in the past may end up in a caring neighborhood, leading to ‘healthier’ relationships.

Luck is In the Past

However, we can’t control the past, but we can control our choices in the present. Don’t get too caught up in the past events; focus on taking control of your present and future.

Whether you were raised in a good or challenging environment, reading these articles suggests you’re lucky to learn about improving yourself. Life happens in the present, so take responsibility now. Ask yourself if you’re happy and at peace in the present, rather than dwelling on past luck or unluckiness.

You may have been unlucky in the past, as you were not aware that those close to you could hurt you so badly. However, you have a choice: dwell on your past unluckiness, which will keep you stuck, or work on those underlying issues to have better luck in attracting healthy relationships next time.

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Whether it’s luck or not is not for me to say, but what will surely happen is that if you focus on yourself, letting go of anger, resentment, and the baggage you’re carrying, you can lead a peaceful life with or without a relationship. You can stand on your own and become the pillar of your own life.

Don’t linger in debates about being lucky or unlucky; instead, concentrate on what you’re doing in the present moment to make your life better. Regardless of your past, focus on building meaningful relationships, growing as a person, and making choices that enhance your life. Healing is in the present moment and it’s a conscious choice to take the steps to face your deep fears.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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