The Feeling of Being emotionally drained after being in an abusive relationship

The Feeling of Being emotionally drained after being in an abusive relationship the feeling of being emotionally drained after being in an abusive relationship
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Why do you feel so emotionally drained after being in an abusive relationship? Feeling emotionally drained here is like feeling utterly exhausted — tired about everything, tired about life, tired about relationships, tired with sorrow, tired with your family, with your work; just feeling very, very tired. Yes, you might be eating, you might be exercising, but you still feel tired.

Actually, the best way to explain this is to imagine yourself carrying a load, let’s say a piece of luggage. You’ve been collecting these pieces of luggage for a very long time — 30 years, 40 years, depending on how long you’ve lived. This luggage is filled with all those things: shame, hate, resentment, and all those negative emotions and thoughts. You’re still carrying them inside you; these are the things we call emotional baggage. You’re carrying emotional baggage from the past, just like carrying a physical load. Inside you, you’re carrying a lot of emotions or a lot of tears you never cried.

Imagine the tears you never cried for a very, very long time. Those tears never go away, evaporate, or disappear; they get stuck in your body or in your mind. That’s why you feel emotionally drained. It’s because you’re carrying a load that’s not yours, a burden that needs to be let go. When you carry this burden, your muscles feel tight, and you may develop some weird symptoms.

These symptoms are visible manifestations of the emotions you’ve never processed, the baggage you’re still carrying. Sometimes you may even develop weird diseases, go to the doctor, and find out you’re physically okay because it’s the emotions from the past weighing you down. You may take sleeping pills, energy drinks but none of these work because the emotions you never processed don’t really go away; they get stored in your body.

Release the Baggage

Once you leave those abusive relationships, you have to work on releasing that baggage. Healing is about releasing the burden you were supposed to let go of when those experiences were occurring. Therapy or healing is going to a safe space where you release the load. Once you release the load, you start realizing that life will become lighter.

After the first call with a client, the common theme is, “Hey, I’m feeling lighter.” Of course, you’re feeling lighter because you’ve released something. When you start feeling lighter, you realize that life is not hard after all. Life is not about collecting; it’s about releasing and letting go. For instance, if you feel sad now, you cry, you move on with life.

Feeling emotionally drained is a result of carrying a lot of emotional baggage from your past. The best thing to do is work on releasing that emotional baggage. Seek help or seek good therapy to help you release this emotional baggage. It’s not a tough thing to do; it’s very, very easy because the baggage is not outside; it’s with you. The solutions are not in the books, they’ve been with you all along, it’s the only place you’re not looking. The same person who collected this baggage is the same person who will release and let go of this baggage so they can travel lighter in life, feeling free.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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