Should You Convince Your Family of Your Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

Should You Convince Your Family of Your Emotionally Abusive Relationship? should you convince your family of your emotionally abusive relationship?
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Today, I’ll be addressing the question of whether you should convince your family about your emotionally abusive partner. This is a common issue, particularly in certain cultural settings where family involvement in relationships is so significant. In these cultures, decisions about relationships are not just between the couple involved; they also involve the families. So, if you find yourself stuck in a marriage with an emotionally abusive partner, it can be difficult to leave because of the expectations and bonds between the families.

Hard to Show Evidence of Emotional Abuse

One major challenge is that it’s hard to present evidence of emotional abuse to your family. They may not understand what you’re going through or recognize emotional abuse, such as being called names, being insulted, or being manipulated. Your parents may have their own unresolved issues and struggles, which makes it even harder for them to comprehend your situation. Explaining that you are dealing with emotional abuse may not help you unless your parents are knowledgeable about these matters or have educated themselves on the topic.

Your Family May be Enablers

It’s also possible that your family may unintentionally enable the emotionally abusive behavior of your partner. Enabling occurs when someone supports or allows harmful actions or patterns to continue without addressing or challenging them. In the context of an abusive relationship, family members might enable the abusive partner by dismissing or downplaying the abuse, making excuses for their behavior, or pressuring you to stay in the relationship.

Family members may enable the abusive partner due to various reasons, including a desire to maintain family unity, fear of confrontation, or lack of awareness about the severity and dynamics of emotional abuse. They may have their own biases or beliefs that prevent them from fully understanding the harm being inflicted upon you.

Family May Invalidate Your Experiences

Family members may directly or indirectly invalidate your experiences by sharing stories of their own perseverance in relationships and emphasizing common societal norms like “marriage is all about perseverance.” These narratives can make you doubt your decision to leave the marriage and create feelings of guilt or self-doubt.

When your family reinforces the idea of perseverance in relationships, it can be difficult to reconcile your own experiences of emotional abuse and the belief that you should endure and stay in the marriage. This can lead to questioning your own judgment and feeling pressured to continue the relationship despite the harm it may be causing you.

Beyond Family- Always Choose Yourself

If you feel trapped in an abusive marriage due to family ties, it’s important to realize that your family may not understand or believe your pain. In such situations, you need to rely on your own strength. You are the one experiencing the pain, and no one else can fully grasp what you’re going through. Convincing your family to support your decision may not be fruitful. Instead, focus on yourself and what you can do to break free from the abusive relationship.

Building courage and strength is crucial. Remember that your parents might advise you to endure and stay in the relationship because that’s what they did in their time. However, if you believe you deserve better and that the relationship isn’t working, don’t worry about convincing your family based on customary laws. Instead, concentrate on your own well-being and safety. If you want their support and it’s not forthcoming, consider finding a job, saving money, or even seeking temporary shelter with a friend. These alternatives can be great options, especially when cultural norms make it challenging to leave.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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