Self-Sabotage And Self-Destructive Habits After Abuse

Self-Sabotage And Self-Destructive Habits After Abuse self-sabotage and self-destructive habits after abuse
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One of the questions I often ask my clients before working with them is to identify the habits they have developed as a result of being in past relationships or their current one. These habits mostly include behaviors like excessive eating, binge-watching, binge-reading, isolating oneself, avoiding relationships, shutting others out, procrastinating, and other actions that hinder personal growth.

Despite trying to break free from these behaviors, they often find themselves returning to the same state. So, why does this happen? The main reason behind these self-sabotaging behaviors is that the mind is attempting to protect and keep you safe. Self-sabotaging behaviors are more of protective mechanisms. The mind naturally strives to keep you in a familiar state, even if it’s an environment where you are constantly invalidated or made to believe you’re not good enough.

For instance, if you have been repeatedly told that you’re not good enough or beautiful, you may engage in behaviors that reinforce that belief. This could manifest as excessive eating because when you are constantly labeled as “not good enough,” binge-eating can become a way to validate that belief of your own inadequacy or not feeling good enough. Negative beliefs tend to perpetuate actions and behaviors that align with those beliefs we have about ourselves.

To break free from self-sabotaging behaviors, it is crucial to work on the negative beliefs you hold about yourself. These beliefs often stem from past experiences of abuse, name-calling, and mistreatment by those you once loved. By addressing and transforming these negative beliefs, you can develop positive and empowering beliefs about yourself. These positive beliefs can include knowing that you are worthy and deserving of a better life.

When you hold positive beliefs about yourself, your actions will align with those beliefs. You will no longer engage in habits like excessive eating, binge-watching, or procrastination because you deeply understand that you deserve better. Self-sabotaging behaviors are merely reflections of what you believe about yourself. By addressing the root causes and transforming your beliefs, you can reach a point where you develop positive and empowering beliefs that no longer lead to self-sabotage.

It is essential to work on these root causes because without doing so, you may find yourself self-sabotaging even in healthy relationships. Your mind, seeking self-preservation, will be drawn to familiar abusive environments if that’s what you’ve known since childhood. By working on deprogramming these negative beliefs, you can become an autonomous individual, embrace your authentic self, and realize that you deserve better. You don’t have to sabotage your own efforts and happiness.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these subconscious patterns for good (in less than 2 months) using Mind Shifting, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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