LOVE BOMBING is Not the Problem — The Problem is your Lack of Boundaries

LOVE BOMBING is Not the Problem — The Problem is your Lack of Boundaries love bombing is not the problem — the problem is your lack of boundaries
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In the world of relationships, there’s a term that has gained attention and sparked debates: love bombing. This phenomenon refers to an overwhelming display of affection, grand gestures, and extravagant expressions of love in the early stages of a relationship. While love bombing may initially seem like a dream come true, a closer look reveals that it is not the real issue at hand. The problem lies within ourselves — our lack of boundaries. In this article, we delve into the truth behind love bombing and explore how developing healthy boundaries can protect us from its potential pitfalls.*et9czc*_ga*MTkxNjcxMDU2NC4xNjg1MDA1MjYw*_ga_6LJN6D94N6*MTY5ODczNDU3OC4yMjQuMC4xNjk4NzM0NTc4LjAuMC4w

Initially, the actions of a love bomber may make you feel loved and wanted, as they go above and beyond what a typical person would do. However, when love bombing becomes excessive, you might sense that something is off.

It’s important to recognize that there is nothing inherently wrong with going on a vacation or having someone pay your hospital bills. These gestures can be enjoyable and appreciated. However, the problem lies in your lack of boundaries and the feeling of reciprocation that arises when someone offers you so much in a short period of time. When you lack boundaries, you may be tempted to offer yourself, including your values, interests, and preferences, as a form of reciprocation for what the other person has provided. This is where the manipulation can occur.

Having boundaries means understanding your self-worth and not compromising who you are, even in the face of intense love bombing. If you deeply know and respect yourself, you will not offer yourself as a form of exchange for someone’s love bombing. Even if someone does lavish things for you or tries to take care of you, your healthy boundaries will prevent you from sacrificing your own identity or opening the door for someone to manipulate or ruin your life.

Boundaries Trigger Manipulators

By maintaining healthy boundaries, you can protect yourself from falling victim to love bombing. You won’t be swayed by extravagant gestures because you understand how you should be treated and what you will not tolerate from others. Even if someone attempts to love bomb you, you will remain firm in your boundaries, which will deter them from continuing their manipulative behavior. You will be able to see their true colors when they realize that you are not easily swayed or offering them something in return.*et9czc*_ga*MTkxNjcxMDU2NC4xNjg1MDA1MjYw*_ga_6LJN6D94N6*MTY5ODczNDU3OC4yMjQuMC4xNjk4NzM0NTc4LjAuMC4w

When you exhibit unwavering resolve, refusing to allow your boundaries to be crossed, manipulators find themselves in a state of frustration and disarray.

Manipulators thrive on their ability to exploit and manipulate others for their own gain. They possess a keen sense of identifying those who are more susceptible to their tactics — individuals who lack firm boundaries and are easily swayed or coerced. However, when you establish strong boundaries and make it clear that you will not tolerate manipulation or deceit, it disrupts their carefully crafted control.

Always prioritize establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries to protect yourself from the pitfalls of love bombing. Having these boundaries will help you navigate relationships with clarity and ensure that you are respected and valued for who you truly are. So, remember, work on developing healthy boundaries, and you will safeguard yourself from falling into the trap of love bombing.

Note from the Author

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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