How to Stop the Spiral of Negative Thinking After Leaving an Abusive Relationship?

How to Stop the Spiral of Negative Thinking After Leaving an Abusive Relationship? how to stop the spiral of negative thinking after leaving an abusive relationship?
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Hey, everyone! Today, I’ll be addressing the question of how to stop the negative spiral of thinking after coming out of an abusive relationship. This spiral of negative thinking refers to a mindset where everything in your life is viewed through a negative lens. It could be as trivial as the weather being gloomy or your friend doing something that bothers you. You might even find it challenging to engage in positive affirmations, feeling disconnected from statements like “I’m beautiful” or “I’m worthy.” The world may seem overwhelmingly negative, and you may struggle to break free from this cycle.

To understand the origin of this negative thinking, let’s look at the root cause: your beliefs. If you truly believe that you deserve negativity or that the world is an inherently negative place, your perspective on everything will be influenced by this belief system. Even positive events may be interpreted negatively. It’s crucial to recognize that beliefs are learned behaviors, often developed in response to being in abusive environments.

When you spend a significant amount of time in an abusive environment, you internalize beliefs that become deeply ingrained in you. Even if positive things happen externally, you might find a way to twist them into negative aspects. The negativity persists because it’s what you’ve become accustomed to.

No amount of positive external experiences can drive away this negativity unless you address the underlying beliefs. The first step to stopping the spiral of negative thinking is to challenge these negative beliefs. This can involve looking at contradictions that disprove or contradict these beliefs.

For instance, if you hold the belief that no one can be trusted, reflect on instances in your life where you trusted someone, and that person did good things for you without expecting anything in return. As you examine these instances, you start to realize that your belief is not universally true. Challenging your negative beliefs is like peeling layers of an onion. The more you explore real-life instances that contradict these beliefs, the more you start to dismantle them. By doing this, you gradually free yourself from the grip of negative beliefs.

These negative beliefs are deeply ingrained due to exposure to abusive, neglectful, or unloving environments. To break free from the spiral of negative thinking, you must challenge these beliefs. As you work on them, you’ll discover that you have choices and that life comprises both positive and negative aspects. You begin to realize that even in the midst of negativity, there can be positive elements.

In summary, the key to overcoming negative thinking is to challenge negative beliefs. As you slowly work on dismantling these beliefs, you’ll find yourself gaining a more positive perspective and having choices in the present moment. The root lies in your beliefs, and by addressing and challenging them, you can pull yourself out of the hole of negative thinking.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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