How To Find A Sense Of Direction After Leaving An Abusive Relationship?

How To Find A Sense Of Direction After Leaving An Abusive Relationship? how to find a sense of direction after leaving an abusive relationship?
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Today I’ll be addressing the question of how to find a sense of direction after leaving an abusive relationship. What exactly is this sense of direction? It refers to knowing where to begin and how to restart your life after being discarded of after leaving an abusive relationship. So, let’s first explore why this sense of direction is often lost.

In many relationships, especially toxic ones, you do become consumed by them. Someone once told me that their relationship became their sole focus, almost like a hobby. When you’re in a toxic relationship filled with ups and downs, it’s easy to become addicted and obsessed. This obsession often leads to neglecting activities you once enjoyed and distancing yourself from friends, hobbies, and work. Eventually, your entire focus revolves around the relationship, leaving little room for anything else or little room for yourself. It’s a relationship where you focus all your energy and most of time trying to impress them or trying to win their validation or just surviving the abuse. Consequently, thoughts of pursuing a better career or enjoying hobbies fade away as the relationship takes centerstage.

Once you finally leave such a relationship, you may feel as though you’ve lost your sense of direction in life because the relationship was your primary focus. Despite its toxicity, it occupied your mind daily. However, once it’s gone, you’re left feeling empty and directionless. You may wonder how to start anew: Should you return to old hobbies, reconnect with friends, or engage in distracting behaviors like playing video games or going out excessively?

The key to finding a sense of direction isn’t to actively seek it externally. Although building a fulfilling career, nurturing relationships, and discovering your life purpose are important, they’re not the starting point. Instead, begin by looking inward. Understand why you’re drawn to relationships where you’re hurt or why you become obsessed with others. What are you trying to escape or avoid? By going into these questions, you can identify underlying issues such as low self-esteem, lack of confidence, or dependency on others for validation.

Once you confront and overcome these inner struggles, you’ll naturally regain a sense of direction. Your actions will stem from your authentic self rather than from fear or distraction. Pursuing a career or engaging in activities will become choices driven by genuine desire rather than a need to fill a void. Therefore, finding a sense of direction involves introspection rather than seeking external validation or distractions. The only direction to seek is inwards or rather, the driver needs to learn from their past experiences and they will be able to navigate the journey ahead with more ease and certainty.

By reflecting on your experiences, understanding your motivations, and addressing your inner struggles, you gain valuable insights that will guide you in making informed decisions and pursuing a life which is aligned with your authenticitiy. This inner clarity is more you’re you towards fulfillment and growth in life.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii
Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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