How Do You Move One When Your Abusive Ex Is Happy with Their New Partner

How Do You Move One When Your Abusive Ex Is Happy with Their New Partner how do you move one when your abusive ex is happy with their new partner
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Today, I would like to address the question of how to overcome the feeling of seeing your narcissistic ex seemingly happy with their new partner. Perhaps they’re sharing photos of their new relationship on social media, going on vacations together, and appearing content in each other’s company. This sight can trigger a range of emotions within you, including pain, betrayal, regret, and self-blame. You might find yourself immersed in negativity as you reminisce about the past you shared with your abusive ex.

Let’s explore this further. Firstly, how can you truly determine if someone is happy? Is it through their smiles, laughter, or social media posts? In reality, these are merely outward displays of happiness, often intended for public viewing. Genuine happiness runs much deeper and is a subjective experience unique to each individual. Therefore, observing your narcissistic ex appearing happy doesn’t necessarily mean they are experiencing true inner contentment. They may be masking their pain behind a façade of happiness, a common behavior in which many of us engage. So, relax, they may seem happy but they may be unhappy on a deeper level, where it matters the most. There’s a huge difference between looking happy and being happy.*et9czc*_ga*MTkxNjcxMDU2NC4xNjg1MDA1MjYw*_ga_6LJN6D94N6*MTY5ODczNDU3OC4yMjQuMC4xNjk4NzM0NTc4LjAuMC4w

Moreover, fixating on your ex’s happiness and comparing it to your own only serves to prolong your suffering. Continuously monitoring their activities or hoping for their unhappiness distracts you from your own healing journey. It’s very important to shift your focus back to yourself and prioritize your emotional well-being.

Is it not somewhat paradoxical that you, as a separate individual, invest so much energy into the happiness of another person? Regardless of whether they are happy or not, your primary concern should be your own happiness and self-growth. Dwelling on your ex’s state of mind only serves to divert your attention from addressing the pain they inflicted upon you.

Engaging in behaviors such as cyber-stalking or keeping tabs on your ex’s life only perpetuates your own suffering. Even if you derive a sense of sadistic satisfaction from witnessing their potential unhappiness, it does little to take your pain. True healing cannot be achieved through the misfortune of others. Yeah, there may be a fleeting sense of satisfaction in witnessing your ex’s misfortune, as it momentarily validates your own suffering. However, this temporary relief does not contribute to your personal growth or emotional well-being. Instead, it perpetuates a cycle of pain and stagnation, preventing you from moving forward in your healing journey.

Moreover, instead of holding onto feelings of resentment towards your ex’s new partner and secretly wishing them to experience the same mistreatment you endured, consider cultivating compassion and empathy. Rather than seeking vindication through their suffering, extend a silent prayer or hope that they recognize the truth of the situation sooner rather than later.

In conclusion, the happiness or unhappiness of your ex and their new partner is ultimately unimportant in your journey towards healing. What matters most is acknowledging the pain you’re experiencing and actively working towards growing out of it. By focusing on your own emotions and allowing yourself to confront and address the pain head-on, you create space for healing and personal transformation.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii
Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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