Healing Story 6 #Miriam — When Your Mother is A Spiritual Narcissist and Has Claimed to be the…

Healing Story 6 #Miriam — When Your Mother is A Spiritual Narcissist and Has Claimed to be the… healing story 6 #miriam — when your mother is a spiritual narcissist and has claimed to be the…
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Abuse is abuse, and the object or justification for the abuse doesn’t warrant the abuse.

When you’ve lived most of your life at the hands of a mother who claims to be a saint and wants to absolve you of the demon spirits inside you, your life will not be easy. They will take away your voice, make you feel ashamed of how you look, and you will never grow to become a responsible adult, as you were not given the space to make mistakes and learn as a child growing up. They picked up the Bible and used it to control and manipulate you so that you could submit to their demands.

To the church, she is a saint, more like a revered Mother Theresa figure who generously gives and blesses the faithful, but to you, they’re the demon or the earthly manifestation of the devil who has subjected you to cult abuse, sexual abuse, spiritual abuse, and all those other things you can think of. On top of that, when you sprinkle some cultural abuse, like when your mother beats you up, you’re supposed to just receive the beating; it really makes it hard to see beyond that.

With my African background, nothing scares us the most like the word ‘curse’; you may obey or just listen to the so-called elder because you’re afraid of what will happen to you and your next generation.

Now imagine being scared of curses and being scared of hell and all those being deeply ingrained in your psyche; that’s what today’s healing story is all about. Miriam had been subjected to spiritual abuse and cultural abuse by her saintly mother for more than thirty years, and this is how she went from feeling powerless to being hopeful about the future.

1. What was happening in your life at the time you decided to work with me? (describe in detail)

I was living a heartbroken life since nursery school, until This November I used to be beaten for any slightest mistake and she used to say she is beating the devil not me. She used to curse me and tell me she hates me and I will never know peace.

2. Explain your problem in detail. (how did it feel, what was it like to have the problem, how was life for you having this problem, how long had you had it for) ?

This problem brought along low self-esteem because she used to tell me every day I am not beautiful; I look like a man because all my sisters got hips. Whenever I cooked, she always said my food was not tasty, while others enjoyed it. Whenever I got employed, she would come and tell the boss to sack me, and because she has connections, they would just obey her rules. I grew up in this toxic situation since I was in nursery school until this year November when I decided to have my space.

3. How had you tried to fix it in the past? Why do you think the way you tried failed?

I have tried solving with some relatives our spiritual pastor, we had taken the matter to FIDA with some neighbours which she apologized and said she won’t repeat again. But when we go back home am beaten again and again because she used to say I have ashamed her making no progress to solve the situation.


4. How would describe the entire experience with me (in detail)

First of all, Edwin is so understanding; he gives you space to cry yourself out. He has a listening ear and later gives you advice, encourages you, and makes you believe in yourself, if only for a short time. He gives you examples of people who have made it despite the toxic past they had.

5. How do you feel now after the sessions?

I feel more at peace and more relaxed than before. Nowadays, I have the confidence to talk to people, unlike before when my neighbors and churchmates used to think I was shy. I feel my self-esteem is better now than before.

6. When you think about your life now, what are you most looking forward to?

I see now I have a brighter future ahead unlike before I used to believe more what my mum says about me. Nowadays, I believe I am not ugly, I am beautiful. Am nowadays believing whatever I do. I am doing it well despite what my mum would say again like I am the best baker and my cakes are tasty.

7. What would you say to people who are putting off fixing their problems and frustrations in life?

They should get themselves a good therapist like Edwin. Also they should try to mingle with people or engage themselves with activities which can make them forget their problems Again it is important for them to pray God always answers prayers. Sometimes prayers can tarry but eventually it will be answered at His time

8. What was the most important thing for you in achieving success with your session/s with me

I believed in him just for an hour and my mindset changed. Thank you once again Edwin I believe my future is bright.

Thank you, hope you’ve enjoyed this wonderful interview. All responses are straight from the clients (with no edits- only name have been altered to protect the identity of the client).

If you’d like to be a success story, just book in a free breakthrough call with me and if I can be of help I’ll show you how (there is no guarantee on specific results or outcomes from services as there are many variables that will impact your success).

I will be sharing more of this so that it can show you what’s possible when healing from abuse and demystify some of the myths cycling around with regards to healing from the past. It will also be helping me grow my skills and improve my clients’ transformations.

Psst! It doesn’t matter how what how horrible those experiences you’ve been through are, you can overcome as long as you’re willing to go an extra mile and face that pain. It’s great start for you to stand up for yourself.

Happy healing!!

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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