Healing Journey: That Which Angers You grows You

Healing Journey: That Which Angers You grows You healing journey: that which angers you grows you
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You may have read an article online or encountered a differing opinion or a challenging perspective that contradicts your current beliefs. You might become angered by the author’s point of view and even find yourself engaging in senseless debates in an attempt to disprove their stance. Your anger is valid, but what is not productive is carrying that anger with you.

Two Mindsets in the Healing Journey

There are two mindsets to consider in your healing journey: one of cynicism and feeling like everyone is out to get you, and one where that which triggers you can lead to personal growth.

The first mindset will keep you stuck because you’ll be constantly mired in negativity without moving forward; you might even sink deeper into your wounds. When you get angry or hold onto feelings of resentment towards the trigger or the author, who is a stranger, you lose focus on your healing journey.


You’re channeling your energy into ‘fighting’ someone with a different perspective. Regardless of the author’s intentions, harboring resentment means there’s something within you, in your inner world, that is uncomfortable with what’s being said. This part of your ego wants to keep you entrenched in familiar pain, repelling anything, good or bad, that challenges its perspective. It can manifest as excessive cynicism or anger when encountering differing opinions. It can even manifest as engaging in futile online debates about who is right or wrong, all without looking in the mirror to address the source of your negative feelings that are consuming you.

Meaning of Being Triggered

When you feel triggered or experience discomfort, it’s a signal from your inner self that you need healing to release pent-up emotions that are holding you back. The term “being triggered” refers to an emotional response that occurs when something you encounter or experience, such as an article, a comment, or an event, evokes strong negative emotions or discomfort within you. These emotions often stem from unresolved issues, past traumas, or deeply ingrained beliefs. When you feel triggered, it’s as if a switch has been flipped, and you experience heightened emotional reactions.

Being triggered serves as a signal from your subconscious mind, that there are underlying emotions and wounds that require attention and healing. The triggered response is like a warning sign, indicating that there are pent-up emotions and unresolved issues within you that need to be addressed. These emotions may include anger, fear, resentment, or pain, and they can be related to past experiences or ongoing inner conflicts.

Seeing Triggers as Guides

Rather than viewing triggering content as invalidating or angering, consider it as a guide pointing to areas within yourself that require healing or wounds that have been temporarily bandaged. Ignoring your wounds will result in extreme reactions to seemingly small things, such as becoming infuriated by an article written by a stranger online. When you contemplate this, you’ll realize that engaging in senseless debates is counterproductive. Healing should lead you to the realization that people can have strange and even unreasonable perspectives, and it is you who bears the weight of your reactions.

When you see what angers you as opportunities for personal growth, you can gradually uncover the underlying issues within yourself. However, if you remain extremely furious and angered, you will accumulate unnecessary baggage on your healing journey. This is why sometimes the articles that trigger you the most are the ones that offer the greatest potential for growth, as they challenge your ego. On the other hand, content that soothes or validates you may keep you trapped in your unhealed self or distorted perspective. Interesting, right?


In conclusion, people have different perspectives, and it’s not necessary to fight to prove your point or educate others about the perspectives they should adopt. Instead, focus on the pain you’re feeling or the resentment you experience when your perspective is challenged. Change your attitude from ‘That is triggering, you don’t understand what victims of abuse go through’ to ‘Hmm! I am really angered by what Edwin wrote today, but I wonder what I can learn about myself and the painful feelings I am having.’ This is a simple aspect of the healing journey. The answers are not in the articles; they are deep within you. The same mind that keeps you stuck with default habits is the same mind that can set you free.

Choose the path of seeing opportunities in things that contradict your current beliefs. That’s how you grow beyond your pain. When all you do is carry anger and resentment when triggered, you’re drowning in your pain. It doesn’t mean you have to agree or disagree; just observe what you’re feeling without judgment. This might be the key component you need in your healing journey: observing what is being exposed and allowing it to heal. Show yourself love and compassion by not allowing different opinions to take you deeper into your already deep wounds, but rather to expose the wounds that have band-aids, leading to true healing and transformation. What salts your wounds may indeed be what ultimately heals them.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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