Healing Journey: Are you Addicted to Working on Yourself? part 1

Healing Journey: Are you Addicted to Working on Yourself? part 1 healing journey: are you addicted to working on yourself? part 1
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Are you addicted to working on yourself?

Let’s say you’ve left an abusive relationship or gone through a horrible experience in life, and now you really want to pursue personal development and the spiritual path. You’re now working on yourself, which can include buying crystals, doing yoga, praying, meditating, journaling, going to the gym, and other positive or we can call them ‘spiritual’ activities. But do you realize that there is a point where you can get addicted to working on yourself?

This is something which is very close to me as I’ve been addicted to it at some point in life, especially early on to the point I considered going to a temple and just be a monk. I am glad I didn’t run away from life but got the guidance I needed at the time I was considering that possibility. While these activities are beneficial, it’s possible to become addicted to them and use self-improvement as a form of avoidance strategy instead of a tool for genuine self-growth. It’s a double-edged sword that can either help you progress or keep you stuck, but at the same time, it’s necessary.

What Are Some of The Signs You’re Addicted to Self-Improvement?

Constant Dissatisfaction with Life

A common sign that you may need to tone down your self-improvement efforts is when you generally feel dissatisfied with life despite the progress you’ve made. For instance, you may be more emotionally stable now, have better finances, don’t think about your ex anymore, and understand boundaries. However, you still feel constantly dissatisfied and crave more retreats, meditation, therapy sessions, and other self-improvement activities.


This dissatisfaction may indicate that focusing solely on self-improvement is not making you feel better, but rather perpetuating feelings of discontent. It’s as if no matter how much progress you make, it’s never enough. This is huge red flag, and it shows that your approach to self-improvement is not well-balanced and it’s becoming counterproductive as you’re still seeking more and more instead of seeing and basking in your progress.

Obsessive Behaviour

You’re spending lots of time and energy on improving yourself. You’re buying books, going to retreats, reading articles, and more. When you look at your day, it’s all about self-improvement. It feels like your whole life revolves around it. Instead of just living life, you’re always focused on the next thing to make yourself better. It’s like you’re obsessed with it. Everything you have — your time, energy, money — is all about improving yourself. You might find it hard to chat with a friend because your mind is always on things like when you’ll get that kombucha or go to that hot yoga class. You’re basically obsessed with self-improvement and spend all your time on it, instead of actually living life and enjoying it.

Neglecting Other Areas in Life

When you’re addicted to self-improvement, you might start neglecting other parts of your life. You might ignore your family and friends, isolate yourself, and only want to talk to ‘spiritual’ or ‘conscious’ people. You might even consider going to a temple. While you’re suffering inside, others are living their lives normally. They go to work and maintain a balance, but you don’t want to work and just want to avoid everyone. You see everyone else as unaware, just like you feel. So, you end up neglecting everything else. You start developing this arrogance now that you ‘know’ and they don’t know which still soothes your identity.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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