Can you Heal without Going ‘No’ Contact’ after Being in an Abusive Relationship?

Can you Heal without Going ‘No’ Contact’ after Being in an Abusive Relationship? can you heal without going ‘no’ contact’ after being in an abusive relationship?
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Today, I’ll be addressing the question of whether it’s possible to heal when you cannot go no contact. Often, people believe that healing requires distancing ourselves from the abuser or those who hurt us, but that’s not entirely true. While going no contact can be beneficial in reducing the harm caused by toxic individuals, it’s not always feasible for everyone.

Some may be in different countries, work with their abusive ex-partners, or have ongoing dependencies with certain people, like their parents or you may be parenting with your abusive ex.

The misconception here lies in the belief that healing is primarily an outward process. Yes, the pain we feel due to past relationships or hurtful individuals may manifest outwardly through physical symptoms, but the core of healing is inward. Healing involves addressing the deep-seated emotional and psychological wounds caused by these negative experiences. It means dealing with traumas, processing painful memories, and challenging the negative beliefs we’ve developed.

In essence, healing is a journey that leads to inner freedom. It’s about releasing and processing the pain we’ve accumulated inside ourselves.

While it’s commonly said that you cannot heal in the same environment that broke you, this belief can indeed be misleading. The idea implies that to heal, you must physically distance yourself from the source of pain or trauma, which, while helpful in some cases, is not the only path to healing.

Healing is a complex and multifaceted process that involves both inner and outer aspects. While it’s true that removing yourself from a toxic or harmful environment can create a safer space for healing, it doesn’t guarantee complete resolution of emotional wounds. True healing goes beyond physical location; it requires addressing the internal emotional and psychological aspects that have been affected by the harmful experiences.

Whether you can physically escape the environment or not, the primary focus of healing should be on your inner journey. Healing involves processing and releasing the emotional pain and negative beliefs accumulated as a result of past experiences.

So, don’t let anyone tell you that it’s impossible to heal while still in contact with those who hurt you. Healing is a process of inner growth and transformation. It’s about addressing the pain within and working through the emotional wounds. While going no contact can be helpful, it’s not the sole factor that determines healing. The journey towards healing starts from within, where we process and release the pain and negative beliefs that have been affecting us.


In conclusion, healing is possible even when you can’t go no contact. It’s about acknowledging and processing the pain, addressing emotional wounds, and challenging negative beliefs. Going no contact can be beneficial, but it’s not the only path to healing. Focus on the inner work and growth, and you’ll find yourself in a place of strength, self-acceptance, and freedom. Remember, healing is a journey, and every step you take towards inner healing brings you closer to a healthier and happier life.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these subconscious patterns for good (in less than 2 months) using Mind Shifting, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

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Edwin Bii

I'm Edwin Bii, a trained advanced conversational hypnotherapist (ACH) and Mind Shifting Coach from Kenya offering mental health support, and life coaching to help you crush your goalsand overcome your problems. Together, we'll navigate challenges, build self-awareness, and create a happier, healthier you. Let's unlock your potential.

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